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Protecting Your Relationship (part-2)

protecting your relationship Feb 05, 2021
 
2nd of a 3-part series
 
 
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something out of it; they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good and even often focus on the sexual part of the relationship.  They can say something lilke: OH! we had a great time together last night, that was just awesome, I really think this is the right person that will make ME HAPPY.


Pastors Roy & Vilma Llamas
In reality the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.  The Bible says in:      1Peter 3:7             In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together.  She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life.  If you don't treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.

So I hope that your having a great week, we will continue with our 3 part series in Discovering how to keep the good times rolling.  I would like for you to share this article with others and if you have not read part 1 you need to do so now.

Click on the link below if you have not read part 1 of 3 then come back here to continue on this part 2 of the series.
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OK SO LET'S CONTINUE WITH PART 2 OF 3
A Study was Performed       (just a joke)
  
9 out of 10 husbands agreed that their wives are always right.  The 10th husband has'nt been seen since the study was conducted.    LOL

PROTECTING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

               

Discover how to keep the good times rolling

HOW CHICK-FIL-A WILL HELP YOU RESOLVE CONFLICT

What do Chick-fil-a and conflict resolution have in common? Everything! The method we’re going to teach you in this chapter on conflict resolution is called LUV Talk.

L-isten
U-nderstand
V-alidate.


 
The core principles in our communication method can be discovered at any Chick-fil-a drive-through.

Chick-fil-a has spent millions of dollars to ensure they have happy, repeating customers. What they discovered (and basically any company who is customer oriented) is that people want their orders understood, correct, and they want to be validated if something goes wrong.

If you have ever gone through the process at the drive-through window at Chick-fil-a, then you have successfully gone through the exact same process we are wanting you to replicate at home when conflict erupts in your relationship.
 
Think about this for a second. What happens when you first pull up to the drive-through at Chick-fil-a? A soothing voice (albeit somewhat crackly) comes through the speaker and says, “It’s a great day at Chick-fil-a, how may I serve you.” What a great way to be greeted. It’s friendly, helpful, and service oriented. What’s the next thing that happens? You give the voice in a box your order. And after your order is given, the employee repeats your order back to make sure he has order accuracy.

Just out of curiosity, do you ever give more input than simply your order? We mean, do you ever start telling the employee what you ordered last week at McDonalds? Do you go in to a 30-minute monologue describing your first experiences at Chick-fil-a as a child and the first car you owned when you made your first order alone? Probably not, which is a good thing. Not only would all that information be irrelevant, you’d probably never get the meal you ordered because there was too much discussion about the past and irrelevant information.


   Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor.  If one person falls, the other can reach out an help.  But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble. And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other.  But how can one be warm alone?
                                                     Ecclesiastes 4:9-11


Or, have you ever been shamed or invalidated by a Chick-fil-a employee after giving your order? For example, have you ever ordered a Chick-fil-a sandwich, large fries, a cookies and creme milk shake, and a diet coke and then had the employee not give you the order because he felt like you were too fat to eat that meal? Could you imagine the hurt and embarrassment if an employee behaved in such a manner? It would be obnoxious and you would probably never eat there again.
 
But for some reason we feel like it is totally appropriate and helpful to bring up the past and other issues when we get in to conflict with our spouse (or anyone else). The reason LUV Talk is so powerful in helping you resolve conflict is that it forces you in to a system of communication that fosters understanding and validation. Couples can not resolve issues because, most of the time, they have no idea what they are actually arguing about.

The reason we’re giving you this word picture is because you need to replicate the experience you have at a Chick-fil-a drive-through in your home when conflict erupts. There are two roles you play when using LUV Talk to resolve your conflict.

 

ROLE #1 – THE EMPLOYEE
ROLE #2 – THE CUSTOMER


We will address these two roles in more detail later on in this chapter.

The take-away right now is recognizing the importance of the drive-through experience at Chick-fil-a when it comes to resolving conflict. You want to replicate that experience verbatim in your house. But stay tuned in, because next week you will discover how to stop the madness and cut down on your regrets in communication.

See you in the next part of this series
 
 
 
 
We hope that your enjoyed this  part-2 of the series called:
  "Protecting Your Relationship" and I'm looking forward to the 3rd and final section of the three part series.  Here we are with DAN CATHY the CEO and Chairman of Chick-fil-A.  He is an awesome leader and also a mighty man of God.  This was at a Date Night event in Miami.
 
NOTE: Would like to invite you to our next StrongFamilyLegacy MISSION Weekend this coming October with your entire family. This will be a week-end campout with your family in which you will learn how to prepare your Family Mission Declaration or calling.
  Talk  to you soon with more details; have an AWESOME day.

Pastors' Roy & Vilma Llamas

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