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Protecting Your Relationship (part-1)

protecting your relationship Feb 12, 2021

Spring..."THANK GOD"  What an AWESOME time of the year, and also the summer weather will be here soon.  Hope that your having an AWESOME week, we are so greatful and Blessed to have a loving family.  AND SO DO YOU!   Nothing is impossible for those who believe... God has set up and aligned for you a great relationship with your spouse and your family, you just have to believe. The problem with relationships is that most couples don't know how to have a healthy communication, and much less the tools to solve a conflict.   I was reading this article from Michael and Amy Smalley from the Smalley Institute this past week-end and I said to myself... " I need to share this with you".  What an AWESOME teaching for you to read and also apply the principles that will be shared from Michael and Amy.  If you have any questions feel free to contact us any time, we are here to serve you. Also let's be friends at:

This is a 3 part program, which means if you are reading this and your reading   part ll, then you might want to go back and check your emails and read part 1 first.  I will divide or seperate each part by 2 days to give you time to go over the information.  God Bless and Enjoy.

Pastors Roy & Vilma Llamas


Protecting Your Relationship
Discover how to keep the good times rolling
Couples Effective Communication Program
Marriage is tough, and it’s the toughness that makes marriage so wonderful! We want to propose a question to you, “What in life worth having is easy to achieve?” Think about this for a moment. In virtually every area of our life we know that in order to be great, it will take knowledge, skill, practice, and a lot of hard work. No one in their right mind thinks becoming a CEO, professional athlete, or successful entrepreneur is easy. But when it comes to our relationships, our marriages, the most common thing we hear couples say is, “It should be easier…why is this so hard…it is just too hard…”
Do you remember playing board games with a parent or grandparent? Do you ever remember a game where you knew your grandma let you win? How did the victory feel? If you were old enough, it probably didn’t feel good at all, like something was missing from the victory. The true joy of winning was dampened by the fact you were allowed to win. In essence, you did not earn the victory, it was given to you, which took all the fun away from winning. You didn’t have to work at it, the win was not earned.

So don't get tired of doing what is good.  Don't get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of Blessing at the appropriate time.

                                                       Galatians 6:9

Why would marriage be any different? Our original question read, “What in life worth having is easy to achieve?” Our hope for you is that you look at the difficult times ahead as an opportunity and not a tragedy. That your eyes are focused on loving each other through the conflict instead of being buried in the conflict. Because conflict is coming, no matter how wonderful your dating life is, conflict is a doorway to intimacy and is a part of any significant relationship. Conflict is a healthy thing WHEN YOU KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT PROPERLY. This is where things turn bad in a relationship, when people don’t know how to communicate during conflict.

You are taking steps in this study to prepare yourselves on how to resolve conflict and turn the tough times into opportunities to grow more intimate. You need to know how to resolve conflict with your mate, so we are going to teach you positive communication and how to resolve conflict!

We’ve been helping couples for over 18 years, and if we’ve learned anything in all this time, it’s that couples fight. They fight a lot.

There is nothing abnormal or unhealthy about getting in to conflict with your spouse. Conflict is the natural progression of an intimate relationship. Conflict is actually healthy and an important part of a balanced marriage (or breakfast).

Conflict is natural. Conflict is inevitable. Conflict adds depth to your relationship because you are sharing differences of opinions and needs. When you get in to conflict, you are learning about each other and presenting an opportunity to better love each other.

The problem with conflict is most couples don’t have a clue on how to resolve conflict. They just fight and never make up or draw closer together.
We want to shed light on how to find a win/win solution in every argument. You don’t have to be miserable and avoid topics because they are “too sensitive”. This course will give you the structure and the system to find out why you are in conflict and to gain understanding about each other on a level you may not be used to – a close and connected level.
You will learn how to utilize conflict to help your marriage rather than allowing conflict to tear your marriage apart. This course’s journey will take you down 5 roads for healthy communication:
And  "don't sin by letting anger gain control over you."  Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry.
                                                         Ephesians 4:26
Road 1: Why the drive-through at Chic-fil-A will help you find  peace.
Road 2: The awesome power of a time-out
Road 3: Learn how to be a great employee for your spouse
Road 4: Learn how to be a great customer for your spouse
Road 5: Finding win/win solutions is as easy as 1-2-3
Get ready to discover how to experience healthy conflict. Your relationship will never be the same after this course. Marriage can be your most precious and connected relationship here on earth, don’t allow conflict to keep you from true happiness with each other. Use conflict as a means to gain better insight of each other’s needs and as an opportunity to grow closer together.
What do Chick-fil-a and conflict resolution have in common? Everything! The method we’re going to teach you in this chapter on conflict resolution is called LUV Talk.
The core principles in our communication method can be discovered at any Chick-fil-a drive-through.

Chick-fil-a has spent millions of dollars to ensure they have happy, repeating customers. What they discovered (and basically any company who is customer oriented) is that people want their orders understood, correct, and they want to be validated if something goes wrong.

If you have ever gone through the process at the drive-through window at Chick-fil-a, then you have successfully gone through the exact same process we are wanting you to replicate at home when conflict erupts in your relationship.

Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.
                                                         Proverbs 12:18

This presentation will continue with part ll, you will be receiving the next newsletter in a couple of days from today.  See you then.  
Come be with us at our next event for the entire week-end called: Strong Family Legacy  MISSION WeekEnd.

This will be on a week-end. You will be invited to participate the entire week-end with your family on a camp-out that you will never forget.  One of the most rewarding times that you will have with your family together. I will be posting more information on this event soon.

Pastors Roy & Vilma Llamas

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